We provide mutual aid support groups tailored for LGBTQ+ individuals in recovery to come together in a friendly, non-judgmental space, to talk about recovery and their relationship with alcohol and substances. To share experiences with like-minded individuals who understand the unique challenges faced by the community and fosters a meaningful network of support and connection whilst also exploring recovery focussed tools.
We start the group with a short check in and ask that everyone introduce themselves with their name and pronouns.
Expectations from attendees:
Due to the nature of the group, it is important that this is a safe and sober space for all. This includes the use of alcohol, cannabis and any other substances.
If participants are perceived to be under the influence of alcohol or substances whilst accessing this space, they may be asked to leave.
Confidentiality:
- The space is confidential, and attendees are expected to agree that the meeting content is confidential and respect that what is said here stays here.
- Some people may not be “out” outside of this space so please do not share details of others without their consent.
- Natural group discussion and cross talk is encouraged but we ask that people who are more comfortable with speaking in a group give space for everyone to contribute and be heard.
Discussions and language:
- The session is centred on recovery and moving forward, so please do not use the space to focus on trauma. If this is something you would like to explore in a support group setting, then facilitators can signpost you to alternative/additional organisations and groups that are run by mental health professionals who specialise in this.
- Humour is sometimes a coping mechanism for people when discussing difficult subjects, however, please be aware that agreeing with someone who is self-deprecating or using negative humour can be damaging and an obstacle for people opening up.
Managing triggers:
- Try to give a trigger warning beforehand if you are sharing a distressing experience and give people a chance to leave/take a break if they wish to avoid the discussion.
- If you find something triggering during the session, the space provided should allow you to feel comfortable sharing that something was triggering within the group. If not, you can talk to a facilitator afterwards or arrange a call with someone from the LGBT Foundation team within the week.
- It is also important to be mindful that you will be entering a session where things may be triggering and we cannot predict what will be shared. Please take the time to think about whether you are in the right space to attend the session beforehand.
Planning ahead:
- You can plan ahead for this by calling a trusted person after the session, ensuring you have a safe journey home, do some self-care activities when you get home (eat something, watch a film etc.)
Utilise the LGBT Foundation helpline (9am – 6pm weekdays only: 0345 3 30 30 30)
Boundaries:
We understand that you may wish to offer support to or make friendships with people you meet in group, however we urge caution with exchanging numbers and following people on social media particularly when looking for peer support in recovery as while people are doing well they may be great support, however if they relapse or are struggling it can be a lot of pressure on your recovery to support someone else and also there have been cases of people making inappropriate contact with others when they are using.
It is advised that you wait a while before exchanging numbers or exchange an email address which is easier to screen.
Expectations from facilitators:
- We will provide a space for attendees to share whilst managing and safely closing discussions that become inappropriate.
- We will keep to time and let attendees know when we are approaching the end of the session.
- We will discuss any safeguarding issues with attendees after the session in private.
- We will aid with the structure of the session and will sometimes implement recovery focussed tools to explore to help facilitate discussion within the group.
- We will encourage attendees to provide guidance using their own experience, but we may also provide guidance and signpost attendees if the group is quiet.
